Tuesday, October 7, 2008

What you really learn from hardships

Suffering is the tuition one pays for a character degree.

- Richard M. Rayner, M.D., SparkPeople member

"Perhaps you think this isn't very 'positive' sounding, but I find it helps people (patients and friends) put hardship, which is inevitable, to good use," says Richard. "People can use their suffering either to gain character or become bitter. The ones who choose bitterness live a long, slow death. The ones who choose character truly live." Richard is right on the money. Happiness and sadness don't happen to us--they come from within. The story of your life will be written with or without your help. The next chapter is happening while you read this. Will you wait to see what it says later, or will you help write it?
 
This is a SparkPeople.com Healthy Reflection.  Man oh man, is this not the truth.  And the No. 2 Kid is finding this out and will find more out as time goes on.
 
As Dr. Rayner mentions, sometimes you can't avoid a bit of hardship.  The kid is wanting us to make her feel good.  She told me she couldn't study or concentrate to study without feeling good about herself.  Again that is where she and I are different.  I would study just to avoid all that.  But again I am a nerd.  I admit it.  Not everyone reads text books for fun.  :)  Mom actually forced me to read romance novels when I was in high school.  I relented to King Arther literature, but reading for fun was beyond what I wanted to do.
 
And Allyson is taking all this in stride.  She had some math homework the other day.  It said to solve the equations.  I told her she had done them all wrong and she insisted this was the way the teacher told her to do them.  Found out yesterday I was right.  DUH!  I know math and do it for fun.  :)
 
Well, I am tons of emails behind and playing the secretary job at work, so guess I better get back to it all.  Hope you all have a wonderful week.  More as it becomes available.  (You know this is keeping me sane, right?)
 

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